Letters from the Attic

I have been so unbelievably spoiled by this break.  He’s only going to be gone till Saturday and I’m a wreck.  I have no idea what I’m going to do when school starts up and we are apart for weeks at a time.

tattooedducks:

abstinence only sex education sucks ass. my parents were good about talking to my bro and i about sex, but there are a lot of things that they didn’t know to tell us because culture changes so much over like 30 years.

this is all stuff i learned myself over three or four years of research, experience, and constant desire to learn in spite of all of the people who told me not to. honestly, there are so many useful things that can be taught if we stop pretending sex is this evil monster that causes problems for anyone who does it if they’re not married and heterosexual.

sex is not the enemy, misinformation about sex is.

• there are safer ways to have sex. instead of concentrating on the ways to safely have sex, abstinence-only sex ed concentrates on “don’t get pregnant it sucks.” there are a lot of ways to make sex safe, like complete consent, communication, and going gradually. safe sex isn’t just about not getting an std or pregnant, it’s also about not hurting yourself and making sure each party involved is comfortable!
• there are ways to have sex besides missionary penis-in-vagina intercourse. there are a whole multitude of ways to have sex, and it’s honestly necessary to know what your options are before you engage in sexual conduct. anal sex, oral sex, intercrural sex, manual sex, using toys or dildos, and even mutual masturbation are options, as long as they’re done safely. there’s no such thing as the “full” sex or “right” sex.

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